GO SEE...

Advice from somebody you trust to suggest that you can be helped by seeking out a given source of wisdom. Some of this is very practical.

You have car problems, see a mechanic, plumbing problems see a plumber. Not much mystery in that process.

I only wish it were based only on fact. See the problem is a person can claim to be one of those trades and not really be skilled at them.

So this is where we turn to friends for references. Like give me a name of somebody who didn't turn out to be a crook when you used their services.

A few helpful hints in that regard though. For example, if your buddy tells you to go and see someone there are a few clues it might not be a good recommendation.

If for example your pal casually mentions how he and this other person often go on trips together. And the other person picks up the tab. Hmm, might be a conflict of interests.

Then there are the other aspects too. Like for example if you take time to check out the reference and the person is on probation for a crime related to another business, that is not encouraging.

Ah it is sad indeed that we must endure some realities. I suppose we wouldn't if people were honest.

However, we know that this is not going to be the way that leads to hope. Or much else in the plus side for that matter.

Doesn't keep it from happening though. You can be sure of that. For people are if nothing else predictable.

So you can sort of assume that referrals will have the same elements of risk as most things in life. Only you tend to get more annoyed when it ends up being somebody you really thought was a friend.

Now that is not a thing I like to find out about somebody after taking their advice. Nope I would prefer if they weren't that great at masking their stupidity.

But that is all part of life. Well until you sort it out. You know find out who you can trust and not trust.

This can take forever with some. Because they might throw you off the track and be right a time or two.

That really is the pits when later it is like, the sleeping moron awakes. Then you learn you own lesson at being dumb.